Internet dating older people
I met Bob at a restaurant on a summer afternoon in 2014.
I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.
It seemed as if my friend's instincts were off, I thought. Earlier in our meeting, Bob described moving to the area as a 30-year-old in 1978 – the year I was born.
But just as I was about to leave, Bob admitted that he was not that interested in me as a writing coach, but as a romantic prospect. Yet when I rejected him, he looked stung and startled, as though he was completely unaware of our significant age difference.
I was considered too old for men my age, but not for those with 15 years or more on me.
As Ok Cupid founder Christian Rudder has said, this is quite common.
He introduced himself and inquired about what we did for a living.
When I told him I was a writer, he became intrigued.
When I actively searched profiles of men in their early- and mid-thirties, I noticed that many specified that they preferred women in their twenties.I specified that I would date men in their early thirties to early forties - “no exceptions", I wrote.A few men didn't listen, but I managed to weed out most of them.As with Bob, anytime I responded to the older men online, thanking them for their interest and reiterating my age-range preference (which clearly specified 31 to 42), I was offered a patronizing lecture on the value of an open mind and a laundry list of reasons they are young at heart, complete with winking references to their still-spry sexual prowess.I was also inundated with examples of famous couples with large age differences, in case I didn't know them.
Dating much younger women seems to stem from these men's unhealthy and unrealistic obsession with youth – perhaps a way to stave off fears of their own mortality.